tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8473270951204999405.post7378646647925076499..comments2023-12-06T05:22:02.407-05:00Comments on Living with Grief: Why am I feeling like this?Rose Mary Saraivahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16277954414057319565noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8473270951204999405.post-63240390081118465782010-11-09T08:31:19.022-05:002010-11-09T08:31:19.022-05:00Yes, Chez, most people avoid the topic altogether,...Yes, Chez, most people avoid the topic altogether, thinking it will all go away. But those dark days seem never ending. I know that seeing my counselor made a world of difference for me. She allowed me to 'unload' my burden without judgment, she helped me to know that I was going to be okay. <br /><br />Definitely yes, to when anyone receives a diagnosis of cancer or any other life altering illness or disease, they very much go into a depressive state. This is when it is very important to find like-minded people who help you, who support you, and give you a shoulder to cry on when needed. <br /><br />As for support groups, I believe for me, that I had to find a group that would work for me. Sometimes the first support group is not always the right fit. When I found myself coming home with more than I had carried in, I knew I was in the wrong place. I eventually found groups with shared empathy, who filled me with hope, gave me courage to face tomorrow, and to let me know it was okay to hurt, to feel, and who did not try to stop me when I cried. I would leave these groups carrying only hope, encouragement, love and a knowledge that I too could make it, that I would survive. The key is to not give up after the first attempt or two. Even with counseling, if the first person you see leaves you feeling unsettled, it is okay to seek out someone else. Thank you. <br /><br />Blessings! Love, Rose MaryRose Mary Saraivahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16277954414057319565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8473270951204999405.post-89446798236181468692010-11-09T07:27:58.731-05:002010-11-09T07:27:58.731-05:00Rose Mary it seems many of us manage to skirt arou...Rose Mary it seems many of us manage to skirt around depression with both a cancer diagnosis and grief. Often it takes time to recognise. That is where I believe groups, to be well run, benefit from having professional counsellors. We unload lots in group sessions and often end up taking our own home along with 'baggage' of others.<br />Love and gratitudeCherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01334065619837967170noreply@blogger.com